They always ask leaning in as if they’re digging for the truth about what women think and every time they are sorely disappointed with my answer. There is an immediate dismissal because my answer mustve been created to make them feel better about their size. They “Hm..” or add an “Okay” to their strained facial muscles unable to hold about their dissatisfaction. Maybe the truth isn’t as interesting as fantasy.
Men are obsessed with wanting bigger-you-know-whats. They’re bombarded with the infamous Texan motto, “Bigger is Better” through porn and ads geared to pumping them up.
I feel lucky enough my male friends speak to me in confidence about this issue. In addition to friends, every male lover I have ever had always asks about his size. “Is it really satisfying?” YES! My goodness, can’t you see how awesome I feel? In their defense, women are notorious for faking (I’m truly proud to say I can count on one hand how many times I have faked an orgasm). It would be hard to gauge if a woman was being honest with her partner.
It took me a number of years to be okay with my body size (i.e. my ass) and it was thanks to many, many men over the years assuring me my ass was awesome, and sought after, that I was able to overcome this silly paranoia I had… So I will do the same for you, men-with-an-average-sized-member, and I hope anyone else who has sex with men will also do the same because this paranoia is silly.
But it’s become a thing, hasn’t it? It’s true that some people are into large cocks but it isn’t for everyone (and personally, it’s never really been my cup of tea but was fun once in a while). There is a lot of prep work that goes into having sex with someone who is well-endowed. Things are more simple, easier with someone who is average. If penetration gets your partner off and being stretched apart by a bedpost isn’t their thing, then I wouldn’t worry about being larger to be more pleasing to them.
I always say, “When in doubt, just remember that average is average for a reason; it works!”
(BTW, it was this article that inspired my post today. I think making porn featuring your Average Joe is a fabulous idea!)
What I’m sayin’ is, “Chillax dudes. Just be attentive to your lover and don’t be afraid to speak up and explore.” And if your average size, or smaller than average size, is truly an issue for your partner then there is no need to put yourself in a situation that makes you feel bad about you. Be with someone who appreciates you.
KISS. Keep It Simple Stupid. *grins* If it isn’t simple, get out. Small tangent. Anyway, rock on with your awesome self.